It's Been A While

Hey I'm back, it's been a while, but I've been really busy with non PU related issues. But anyhow, on to a new story shall we?

Tuesday night, battle of the bands. I went out, completely just focusing on supporting my good friends band and having a good time with a few of my friends, no PU on the mind at all. Of course now I realize that this calm mindset of not worrying about it is what really sets you up to do your best work. I find if I focus on having a good time and being a fun and interesting person, then people come to me, and it really requires little to no work.

Anyway, to continue. I run into an ex's roommate at the show (as well as the ex), (sidenote: this is an ex for which i was a complete and utterly useless AFC a few months ago) and we're all chatting for a while, ex leaves, so i'm stuck with the two roomates, both incredibly gorgeous, poor me. We talk a bit about the bands, all that, head over to a different bar and get a few drinks, I'm still just trying to have a good time, so I'm succeding in making everyone laugh and start gettin some good kino from both roommates, but one in particular's giving me the eye.

We head back to the battle of the bands to see the last band play and before we head in the one who was eyeing me pulls me aside and tells me to come hang out over at their place afterwards. I'm in no rush to go hang out at an ex-girlfriends house trying to get with her roommate so I tell her to come over to mine instead, she responds with a "We'll see," and a little grin then heads inside. After the bands are over I ask her what she's doing and she tells me she's going to bed, so I say that she should come back to my place and meet my dog, (I really do have a dog by the way, that's not some odd sexual inuendo) she agrees and we head off into the night. Lovely evening overall.

Lessons? Well, definitely learned that as long as I'm having a good time, other people will have a good time around me as well, and this is an attractive quality. Let loose, don't bust yourself over the head if you're not picking up chicks everytime you talk to a new set, just have a good time and let in flow out of you instead of forcing it.

- Sub

Night Out

Alright, here's a little field report for you.

Went out last night and met a guy in the community for the first time, whiplash. Pretty good guy, met up and jumped right into it at a local bar. Started out just socializing with a few kids I knew there to get warmed up, met a few of their friends, had a few beers, and started up the engine. The process of warming up is very important I found out as I was way more successful last night than most nights due to not jumping into it cold, and instead having a few conversations that I knew would turn out well. This sets you in a good mood and makes it easier to approach. I have to admit, Whiplash did most the approaching, and I was often jumping into his sets to wing for him, which went well, however I really need to work on opening still. One set in particular went very well, I found him talking to two pretty attractive girls, say red-dress and red-dress's friend. I introduced myself and started chatting up RD while Whiplash talked to RD's friend, found out they were both in a sorority and RD was born and lived in Singapore for a while. This led to further conversations about travel etc, and things went very smoothly, we ejected from the set and wandered around a bit. I was noticing that whenever I walked by RD she would wave and/or wink at me, I would just give a grin and keep walking which turned out well. On the way out we saw the both of them smoking outside, chatted em up a bit more then number closed RD after a bit. Went on out to get some grub with Whiplash and talked about various methods and went home about 2 AM. Pretty great night overall for a wednesday, good to meet someone from the community finally. I feel I could've definitely escalated more, I did some good kino however, which was returned as well. I need to work on escalation and the approach/open mainly as the conversations I had once i got into them, overall, went pretty well.

Science, Religion, and Pick Up

Hoo ha. Another brain teaser.

Quantum Physics, Religion, Pick Up, and You.

Now, where to begin... Physics is an extremely delicate and more often than not, not completely understand, science. What works in the material viewable realm begins to break down as you move to a molecular level, Newtonian physics as we understand it, is no longer valid. This is incredible once one thinks of the ramifications, physics, the laws that govern our very existence, aren't valid? Woah there. Crazy. This is where Quantum physics comes into play. At a very small level, we find properties of quantum physics such as entanglement and superposition, that state that not only can a SINGLE object be in anywhere from one to three THOUSAND places at the same time, mind blowing enough in itself, two previously connected electrons can be split apart and if one causes something to happen to one, the other one will respond in the same manner, no matter the distance between them. These are discoveries that are not and to some degree cannot be understood completely, however, they work, and are repeatable. So what you ask? I'm not an electron, what does it matter to me? that's so small it doesn't even matter.

Engtanglement in Quantum physics corresponds highly to buddhist philosophy of unity, oneness. That we are all fundementally interconnected in some manner, thusly when one harms another, or causes suffering, one should expect to receive suffering in return. Well, here's a repeatable study for you, one subject is placed in a room with a flashing light, this flashing light obviously has effect on the brain, another subject is placed in another room and concentrates on the other person. Repeatably, this study has found that the brain of the subject in the dark room is effected in the same manner of the subject in the room with the flashing light. Woah. That's pretty interesting if you ask me.

Wow, that's interesting and alll, but what the helld oes this have to do with pick up? After all, you're supposed to be writing about pick up right Sub? Yea, that's right. I am. Let's dive in shall we? When one is in the process of interacting with another, so many things effect the outcome, what one says, how one acts, the tone of ones voice, ones body language etc. In a quantum perspective, ones thoughts would also effect the outcome as in the light test, as one brain can effect another. Thusly how you are thinking is effecting the situation, ones attitude is therefore key. More conventional scientific thought would support this as well, as ones thoughts release chemical changes in the body, creating changes in the physical and subtle bodily appearance.

In conclusion, love yourself, love others, have fun with the interaction and interact with a positive attitude, KNOWING how it's going to turn out is much more effective than hoping it will. You are a master of your own reality to a degree most of us are incredibly ignorant of, but the posibilities are limitless.

Buddhism and Pick Up

This is a post I made in the Unofficial Charisma Arts Forum:

I spent a bit of time in a Chan (chinese zen) monestary in Taiwan, living the monastic life, but not taking the monastic vows. I did take the three refuges and 4 of the 5 precepts at the end of my stay.

The three refuges are, refuge in the Buddha: the way i understand this is to convey the idea that "hey the Buddha was a really intelligent guy, lets in no manner of speaking worship him, but perhaps he had some great ideas which we can learn from". secondly, refuge in the dharma, or looking to the scriptures and teachings of the buddha for insight. thirdly refuge in the sangha, just meaning to look to your fellow practitioners for help and guidance.

The five precepts, as they explained to me, should be taken by lay people (those followers not monastics) only when they feel they have already been incorporating those ideas into their lives, the precepts as the explained are a way to reinforce those ideas. Firstly, no killing, i will not even kill a spider, it's easy enough just to take it outside, this corresponds to the oneness of life and having compassion for all beings. Secondly, no stealing, i've never been much of a klepto so that wasn't too tough, just meaning that when one steals one creates suffering for another, so thusly it should be avoided. Thirdly, no lying, a little tougher, but again made due to the fact that when one lies, one creates suffering. Fourthly, no sexual misconduct, this means no rape or sex with married women (for us lay people at least). Fifthly, no intoxicants, now, when i took the precepts I was being honest in myself in that i was not ready to take this, so i did not, eventually yes I will, but not yet, this precept was created in order to help prevent followers from losing their mindfulness. It is also important to note that the precepts are in no way commandments as one may look at them, one will not be punished by any divine being, it is simply guidelines and suggestions on how one may live a happier life.

Now people mentioned that Buddhism focuses on the suffering and is thusly a very dark and dreary spiritual path. I highly disagree to this statement, not as a personal defense but in scholarly disagreement. Firstly, just from experience, I have never been happier in my current lifetime, nor seen happier people, than when i was in the monestary, nothing but smiling faces. From a scholarly view we see that it is easy to misunderstand the four noble truths (all life is suffering, the cause of suffering is desire, there is a way out of suffering, this way is the eight fold path, which nanda discussed in detail) as being completely focused on negative aspects of life, and I myself at one point disliked buddhism due to this fact. However, through experience and study, i have found that this is simply the setup that one must come to understand and accept in order to no longer focus on these aspects. At a base, perhaps unconcious level, I think we all understand the validity of the noble truths, we are all constantly looking for ways in which to improve something in our lives that seems to lack, we often do so through desiring and obtained more and more unneccessary material goods. Buddhism is simply pointing at this fact directly and up front, allowing one focus on the positive aspects of life once one realizes the negative and allows one to more successfully seek a life of true happiness. Now this is no easy task by any means, one generally speaking not attainable even in your current lifetime, which brings up another point, reincarnation.

Such a lofty goal of giving up all material desires and living life in pure happiness and contentment is most likely impossible in your current life, and Buddhism states that we have all lived countless (i believe in the lotus sutra they state a number that equates to the each grain of sand in the ganges having a world system in which there is a ganges river and couting the grains of sand in every single world system, alot in other words) number of lives in every conceivable form. This being said, when one is reborn a human, it is a great accomplishment, not an easy task, so there be proud of yoursleves everyone . This also means that we're not expected to be perfect, we are all have different levels of attainment (thus every religion, path, and view is to be respected) and a lovely quote from the Buddha, "Your work is to discover your world, and then, with all your heart, give yourself to it," in other words, find what makes you truly happy, and what most people find, is that what truly makes them happy, makes other's happy as well, love yourself, love others, and most importantly. Have fun.

How then, does this all relate to pickup, you ask? Good question. But in a very Buddhist way, everything relates to everything right? haha, got you there . But seriously, any method, that requires one to rigidly conform to a set form, is a negative method, thusly in my mind MM is negative and JM is positive. There are things to learn from MM but the way in which it requires conformity and sneaky methods is not healthy in my mind. JM on the other hand, allows one to bind the method to ones own mindset, it encourages positive usage and social mastery, after all who can one make happier than ones friends? So my advice then would be, find what you like about each and every form and take bits and pieces of everything, mold it into something that YOU enjoy and benefit from, do not mold yourself to it.

Peace my friends.