The First Night

Well, of course this wasn't my FIRST night out, but for blog purposes we'll count last night as the first night of pick up. It went decently well, went to the opening of a bar in downtown Cincinnati, Vinyl I believe was the name, not a bad place. Pretty boring at first, a lot of men 50+ hitting on young girls, a little creepy... but I was sitting with my friends just tryin to enjoy myself when we are approached by two girls, one a 4 the other an 8, the 4 sits next to my friend while the asian 8 sits next to me, we start chattin' them up, figure out the asian girl's a whisky fan (after my own heart), so we start getting into a good conversation and she invites me outside for a cigarette, now I'm not a smoker but I followed and began the kino, lightly touching the upper arm at her high points and she quickly reciprocates, I know it's going well and head for the bathroom.

When I get back she lets me know she's going to a club with her friends and invites me along, I agree and me, her, and all our friends trudge to some boring club, she drags me around into the VIP area (somehow), and i escalate the kino and SOI (Statement of Intent) her, letting her know how sexy she is, this works suprisingly well, and we start making out. We end up heading to a pizza place in a pretty ghetto area of downtown in which a little guy with a gold grill tries to fight me. Instead of getting angry I simply calmly laugh and walk away, much more effective to show the girl that I'm calm and in control than a hot head.

After a while, she says she has to head home for the night and I hand her my phone and tell her to put her number in, she agrees and I immediately call it and say, "hey, now you've got my number." An effective little trick from juggler (He states that girls rarely pick up unknown numbers and it's best to have yours in their phone as well by the end of the night, this being the easiest method). I call it a night and head home, kiss close and number close on first night, not bad.

About My Style

Ok, here's some background on the style I use. Now, I've read Neil Strauss's The Game, read almost all of Mystery's books, listened to countless David DeAngelo tapes and videos, read and listened to all of Jugglers books and podcasts, and gone into some wacky inner-game stuff with Stephane from ideagasms and Steve P, and more.

I'll tell you now that I understand that Mystery's method has some good points, but I think it's a little too depressing in a way, it's focusing way too much on seeing women as "targets" versus seeing them as human beings and I believe that it sets up a paranoid version of pick up, where every guy is out to AMOG you and every girl has to be conquered. I do believe there are positive aspects of it.

I believe that one should take in as much information as possible and learn from as many people as possible, the pick up arts are not formulas that you must mold yourself into, it is a collection of information that you mold to yourself as you see fit, the idea is to take information and use it in a way that fits your personality, in that way we all retain our individuality and personality versus becoming the robots that Neil Strauss warns us about in The Game.

Right now, I find Juggler and Stephane's information the most helpful to me personally, they approach pick up in a positive light, using the skills to apply to everyday life, fixing the major issues, being inner game, and enjoying just being friendly to everyone they meet.

The Beginning

Hey eveyone out there in PUA land. We're all here for the same reasons, get out of AFC, or enjoy your life as a PUA, helping all of us AFC's get out of our frustrated frame. As for me, I'm a learner. This blog is for me to post my journey and keep a record of this tumble through the dating world. Who knows where I'll end up but this is for the records, and hopefully at the end someone can gain hope in seeing the progress of an AFC to PUA.